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Sex tips: How To Please A Woman In Bed

How To Please A Woman In Bed

Written By: Dr. Lissa Rankin
Here’s an article I recently wrote for www.tellinitlikeitis.net about how to make love to a woman. When Lin Burress, the site’s founder, approached me to write this piece, I felt myself blush. After all, I’m a gynaecologist, not a sex-pert.  Wouldn't she be better served by asking some Casanova or, better yet, a lesbian? As the Pink Doctor of Mojo, I’m all about helping women embrace joy and get in touch with their authentic selves. But how to please a woman in bed? Hmmm. My husband and I were just in the bedroom last night, working on making our own sex life a bit more exciting, so I can honestly say I’m no sexual rock star.

However, after thinking about it for a while I realized, to my surprise, that after ten years of working with women and teaching Pink workshops, I guess I have learned a thing or two on the topic. Listen up, partners of ladies: if you’re aiming to satisfy a woman in the sack, we girls beg you, pay attention.

20 Tips For Making a Woman Quiver

  1. Every woman is different.If your super duper signature technique had your last girlfriend hanging from the chandeliers and bellowing out to Mother Mary, good for you. But don’t expect the same thing to work on your new lover.  Our bodies- and needs- vary drastically. One size does not fit all.
  2. A woman’s body is like an old beater car in subzero weather.It takes a while to warm her up.  Don’t expect a warm welcome if you go from zero to sixty straight to her coochie. Foreplay will take you far. Our bodies sometimes need a little coaxing. So often we live completely in our heads. Our minds are spinning with thoughts about work, the kids, and tomorrow’s to-do list. If you help bring us into our bodies by arousing different erogenous zones, like the ears, the lips, the breasts, the inner thigh, the belly button, even the toes, you help remind us that our bodies can offer pleasure if we only inhabit them.
  3. Love her and earn her trust.  For most women, sex and love get all tangled.Not to say there aren’t some Samanthas out there who love to just get it on. But for most of us, we see sex as an expression of love, and if we don’t feel nurtured by you, we may not get all hot and bothered when you want to shake the sheets.  Love her well and earn her trust. Pleasure will likely follow.
  4. Set the mood in the bedroom.  Surprise her with candles, mood music, and a flower on her pillow. Whisper sweet nothings. Don’t serve up silly platitudes, but say what you feel. When we cover our hands with our bellies and try to turn off the light, tell us we’re beautiful, just the way we are. Share how much you care. Romance gets her in the mood and helps her relax.
  5. Know a woman’s anatomy. Need help? Take the Pretty Pink Pussy Tour.
  6. Think sensually, not sexually.  Immerse yourself in the sensory experience of her and find your own timing together.
  7. Give your partner permission to offer feedback, and don’t take it personally.If your partner doesn’t respond to something you’re doing, it doesn’t reflect on your skill as a lover. It just doesn’t work for her unique anatomy and physiology.  If you act dejected every time she offers you feedback, she’s likely to stop trying to help you please her. Accept constructive criticism lovingly.
  8. Fine tune your radar.Even if you invite your partner to offer feedback, she may not feel comfortable talking about sex.  Many of us have been so conditioned to consider sex taboo that we clam up when the subject arises. Learn to read your partner’s subtle signals, and over time, you will discover what pleases her.  Little grunts and moans usually signal YES, and while silence may simply signal shyness, it may also mean that what you’re doing isn’t working for her. Pay attention to body language too. When she moves towards you, it’s a good sign, and if she adjusts her body to a different angle, she might be trying to show you where she wants you to be.
  9. Be gentle and go slow.There’s no race to the finish line here. Remember how sensitive girl parts are. Don’t mash on us (unless we ask you to! We are, after all women. We might change our minds). Start slow, then gently pick up the pace as you go. Don’t start bangin’ us around like you’re trying to get to home base before we’ve even gotten up to bat. You may get sprung in 10 seconds flat, but chances are, we’re still thinking about how little Johnny’s teacher thinks he needs a reading tutor, or whether we’re prepared for that big presentation at work tomorrow.  Be patient with us and our monkey minds.
  10. Do not take it personally if your lover doesn’t orgasm during intercourseSome lucky women get off from the mere thought of intercourse, but the majority of women do not experience orgasm through intercourse alone. If you expend so much energy trying to make her cum while you’re having intercourse, you may miss the rich opportunity to satisfy her in other ways. Sure, try your darnedest to please your woman. But don’t pressure her. Many women will not orgasm during intercourse, even with the most skilled partner.
  11. There may or may not be a G-Spot. While some women swear by the G-Spot and experience vaginal orgasms, most women can only orgasm during intercourse if they’ve figured out a way to directly stimulate the clitoris.  For more about stimulating the G-spot, check out The G-Spot: Fact or Fiction?
  12. Pull out the Kama Sutra.No need to focus all your energy on making her orgasm during intercourse, but why not try?  Check out some books about sexual positions and have fun experimenting. You never know what might hit the spot for your lover. Be creative.
  13. NEVER EVER compare her to another woman.I don’t care what the hell Jane or Sally or Maryanne liked in bed, and neither does your lover. If you think about other women when you’re making love to yours, please- for the love of God- keep your thoughts to yourself.
  14. Most women love oral sex.To a woman, it just doesn’t get much better than this. Soft, wet tongue meets delicate pink pearl? Can you hear us purr? We love it even more if we think you do too. Start gently. Explore the inner thighs, the labia, the opening to the vagina. When her body language indicates that she’s ready, lick, suck, and swirl her clitoris in circles, mixed with up and down motions.  Use your hands to explore the rest of her.
  15. Help your partner out.If you lover prefers to orgasm during intercourse, stimulate her first with oral sex to help sensitize her delicate organs.  Encourage her to explore positions that stimulate her clitoris, such as the woman-on-top position. Use your hands to touch her while you’re having intercourse, or invite her to touch herself. She knows best what feels good, and if you tell her how much it turns you on to see her touch herself, she may feel more comfortable augmenting her own pleasure.
  16. Just because you’re done doesn’t mean she is.If your orgasm is over, don’t assume hers is too.  Maybe she was holding out so she could orgasm during intercourse, but if you cum before she does, no stress. Just finish the job and help her feel as good as you do.
  17. Invite her favorite sex toy into the bedroom.Did you see what happened to Charlotte from Sex and the City when she discovered The Rabbit? Don’t make her go undercover with her vibrator. The sex toys are your friends, not your competition. Let them stimulate both of you, and encourage her to explore.
  18. Get Tantric or explore Taoist sexuality. Want to elevate your lovemaking to a spiritual plane? Check out Tantric or Taoist sexuality.
  19. Remember that sex is meant to be about making love.Don’t get so focused on technique that you forget to connect.  Look deep into her eyes. Caress her lovingly. Tell her how you feel. Hug her. Love her.
  20. Cuddle when it’s over.Please don’t jump up and go watch the game. We make ourselves vulnerable, put ourselves out there, and want to know you’re still with us when it’s over. Snuggle in and stick around a while.

You still there, or has your honey dragged you upstairs? If you still need a few more tips, check out A Pink Guide to Orgasm by Mojo Mentor Dr. Rachel Carlton Abrams.

 

Dr. Lissa Rankin is an OB/GYN physician, an author, a nationally-represented professional artist, and the founder of Owning Pink, an online community committed to building authentic community and empowering women to get- and keep- their "mojo". Owning Pink is all about owning all the facets of what makes you whole- your health, your sexuality, your spirituality, your creativity, your career, your relationships, the planet, and YOU. Dr. Rankin is currently redefining women’s health at the Owning Pink Center, her practice in Mill Valley, California. She is the author of the forthcoming What's Up Down There? Questions You'd Only Ask Your Gynecologist If She Was Your Best Friend.

Is Escorting Possibly Spiritually Fulfilling?

Here's an interesting question... can escorting possibly be spiritually fulfilling? Find out below.

I began being an escort as an element from a religious exercise, not necessarily because of money need similar to the majority of us. The things that pushes me towards sharing my personal experience is precisely how fascinating it absolutely was to me on an emotional level. I discovered being an escort to actually be an incredibly rich base for the purpose of learning any nature of truth, fascination, men or women characteristics, the brain as well as the human body! I enjoy discovering things in relation to my own self, that quite a few may possibly say it to be egotistic, however I believe the unexamined existence just isn’t well worth living, to be able to refer to somebody popular… Know yourself!!

Escorting rendered an ideal chance to find out more about me, understand ways to entice a gentleman and luxuriate in good sex, possess sufficient amount of time to get a 4 hr meditating exercise on a daily basis, quest the entire world to be able to devote time along with my instructors, as well as get together with individuals who have been present. For me personally presence could be the greatest turn on not to mention if somebody is spending lots of cash to get a good encounter they are Prevailing! I additionally enjoy the insufficient playing of games, the genuine tales all these guys would probably reveal regarding their lifestyles, plus the power to link with a lot of various types of individuals along with examine just what their own worlds have been like. I invested time together with Saudi and even Pakistani royals, expert monetary business CEOs, trust fund youngsters, a professional brief model , a four hundred pound guy, a gentleman that have burns on about eighty percent of his entire body, a paraplegic, some sort of Religious faith healer, a person who had previously been a self developed billionaire at the age of thirteen, a guy heading to prison the following day for his entire existence, plus a large amount of wonderful, wedded high degree professionals who actually simply needed a small amount of modified tempo. This particular job had taken me to South Africa, Sri Lanka, Switzerland, Scotland, Hawaii, England, Mexico… It had been quite an adventure!

Furthermore I loved the risk. I was educated quite extensively through buddies who possessed firms regarding how to screen customers however regardless of just how perfectly you actually screen, you however tend to be by no means rather positive what’s likely to invite you in from the other side of that door. The adrenaline seemed to be constantly streaming along with it are increased feelings of sensation. I cherished the 15 mins prior to heading to a customer’s doorstep. Having my personal feelings completely involved as well as my relaxation head upon total alert, I have an opportunity to go in a situation of complete existence, a space in which all time and also info had been accessible. During this condition I’d asked the God to guide me and when there seemed to be something that might get my liberty (cops), my assets (robbers), or perhaps my own actual physical body (sexual assault or any other types of abuse) that I turn out to be mindful of them now. And also I vow to you personally, more than thirty occasions the customer will get in touch and cancel just at that second… Some other occasions, I’d come to feel nauseous or or else distressing and I’d cancel on the final moment. From about three thousand encounters, around two thousand of that I recalled to perform this kind of exercise just before, I simply had 3 encounters that match these classes and not one of them have been violent.

I’d been blessed with excellent genetics, both equally my mother as well as my father had been extremely good looking, however I used to be in no way at ease with my self. I possessed strong sexual desires however I did not hold the self esteem to be able to entice somebody to act them out along with. Additionally, I had been certainly not interested in the guys my age, I used to be excited with the fathers! I began escorting at the age of twenty-four being a timid meditator having orange crew cut in addition to eyeglasses, about twenty lbs obese that has an incredibly lively brain. The three terms in my card in the company had been: redhead, busty, and intelligent. I had been the conversing woman. And I needed to do the job hard to acquire returning business. By the point I turned thirty I became at ease with my own body along with my libido to obtain Lasik, drop the twenty pounds, went golden-haired and hold myself as somebody who had been no less than an eight out of ten within the hotness level if not really a little greater (in accordance to my evaluations anyway…). Heading from a five or six into an eight or nine in addition to heading out of making around five thousand dollars each month to twenty five thousand dollars each month had quite an influence on my meditating exercise. It is simple to not need connection to elegance or dollars if you do not possess a lot of it! Overall I’ve supplied intimate, sexual feminine vitality as wells as obtained monetary assistance for twelve many years.

And so that is my introduction. I will publish much more later on. I am within the procedure of creating a book with regards to the mental breakthrough and influence in addition to the spiritual development possibility offered within escorting. I encourage all feedback or demands for psychological assistance to anybody having wandered this particular route. I am aware that it isn’t constantly simple to get assistance and I also desire to be considered a useful resource.

I’ve already been semi-retired for 2 yrs and have fallen ‘inlove’ to a wedded bazillionaire guru customer that I currently date solely. I hold a Master’s Degree in Holistic Psychology and also am presently functioning as being a divorce mediation counselor throughout California in addition to pursuing a Ph.D.

A Woman’s Sexual Obsession

Trying to understand a woman’s obsession with sex

As far as I could recall, I have become obsessive about sex. I took my bros’ pornography magazines, viewed their movies whenever I had been in the house by myself, I also discovered ways to get the “not allowed” cable channels without anybody being aware of. Yet I had been normally a very good girl. I did not need to harm my own beloved ones emotions plus they had been wanting me to return from college having a teaching degree and after that I would get married to a doctor or perhaps an attorney or anything similarly remarkable then my mother and father can settle down in addition to get ready for me and also my siblings to give them grandkids. My personal attraction with intercourse could be a single of those factors in which horny suburban housewives are also occupied to possibly think of.

We have been a joyful mid class household, however my mother and father had taken a setback throughout my initial semester in college. I was a freshman, 1 of my siblings was a senior and my other sibling was at graduate school. We had been going through an economic downturn and my father’s firm was terribly impacted, needing to lay off quite a few individuals. Mother and father contacted all of us to get a conference and it had been resolved that all of us ought to attempt to have a component time work to make our personal pocket money. This was not a big issue. We would all worked week-ends and also summer season given that we have been in high school and so why not right now?

I began searching for work, however I was not really the only college student seeking to make a few more dollars and certainly, there were not a lot of work available. I had been to dining establishments as well as merchant’s stores, clean-up companies and anybody which might probably wish to make use of an eighteen year old, but no luck. One particular morning I had been into the library in town to do some research for a report and to avoid wasting cash I’d personally chose to stroll back to the dormitory. It had been merely a thirty minute stroll and I also could use the workout because I gained a little bit of pounds since departing our house. I came across a signage that says “Woman ages 18-25 wanted right away. Great pay out. Apply inside.” This seemed just like a club and I would play around mixing beverages at home whenever my mother and father have events and I am sure I can get it done.

I can barely view anything at all when I came into the property. It absolutely was pure darkness aside from the tiny light on the far end of the bar. It appeared that I have been correct. This seemed to be a bar tending occupation. My mom and dad most likely would not agree, however it was likely to be an occupation, right? And also beggars cannot be choosers.

“Hello?” I called out, nevertheless did not see anybody. There seemed to be absolutely no response. “Hello! Is anybody right here?”

“Who is that?” arrived a voice from inside.

“My name is Rosanna McCauley,” I replied. “I have come regarding the occupation.”

The lighting turned on, illuminating the massive area and then I looked all around. It truly appeared quite a bit better to the inside compared to it had from the exterior. There tend to be lots of mirrors around the room, getting it appear larger plus the decoration was mostly leather, gleaming steel as well as glass. Since I have not been into a bar before, It appeared very elegant to me.

“My name is Max Frank,” stated the man who went up to me. He is about 6’2″ in height and had a physique that appeared just like he had spent his life inside the fitness centre. He got a diminishing hair line and was wearing his rather long blonde locks in a ponytail. “Have you got any kind of experience, Rosanna?”

His ice blue eyes looked directly into my own and then I knew much better than to not tell the truth. “Not really a lot, I am afraid. Just helping out at my house. But I am a quick learner.”

I could not figure out the glance in his eyes. “Helping out at home?”

“Yes… When my mother and father have been having events and my mommy wished to get to chill out with all the other visitors I would help out.”

“Is that what is happening throughout the suburbs nowadays?”

“I understand I am just eighteen, however I under no circumstances sampled.”

“Whoa… hold up there, young lady… Exactly why are you currently right here?”

“I already told you. I have come regarding the work that is posted outside.”

“The stripper position?”

“Stripper? Uh… I assumed that it was a bar tending occupation.” I blushed. “Or perhaps a waitress position.”

“I’m sorry lady. All of our bartenders happen to be men and I already have sufficient waitresses. I am in need of somebody who could take her clothing off in addition to dancing seductively upon all these tables and who’ll sit down on my customers’ laps along with laugh at their silly jokes should the customers tend to be ready to pay out.”

I realized I need to turn around and simply just walk away from there, however Max’s explanation has made my pussy prickle the way in which it just did whenever I used to masturbate while watching adult porn. I was feeling motivated to discover much more. And then I said… “I can do that…”

“You can? Pure tiny Ms. Suburbia?” Max seemed uncertain.

“I would love to try out,” I bit my lip. “I would definitely want to try.”

Max seemed contemplative. “You know… This might just work. You’ve got an aura of chasteness about you. You seem much like a girl next door. You might be possibly the type of lady the customers dream about whenever they arrive right here. Dance for me.”

Max turned on some tunes and I began going along with it. He provided me with a few directions regarding what to do with my arms as well as my face. He asked me to move slowly a little. He advised me to embellish specific routines. He was shortly nodding positively at me. “Now continue to keep going that way, but now begin taking your clothing off.”

His instruction got me unexpectedly, I was feeling a bit self-conscious all of a sudden, however I could not refuse now. And then I would in no way get the position. I take off my coat and sweater. After which I began taking off my shoes. I glanced over at Max and he pointed out that I need to take off my shirt next. I was wearing a dull white sports breast support, however he did not look as if he mind at all. And then I removed off my pants, exposing my white cotton underwear with tiny pink hearts. I continued moving and then Max motioned to me to get my bra off and that I did. In the event that any one I recognized had went inside I might have died of embarrassment, however just Max was looking at me. Once I tossed my bra to the ground and pondered whether or not to go entirely undressed Max switched off the audio and clapped.

“You are a natural, Rosanna,” he stated having a smile on his face. “The movements you made really are a little bit awkward, but by having a little amount of training you will be amazing. You can carry out with dropping a few pounds, however dancing for hrs on end will certainly shape you up very quickly.”

He spoke of an amount of money which was over and above my craziest desires. Hardly any other part time occupation paid out anywhere close to as much. “That is your own standard pay out for each six hr shift. You also get to keep your tips on top of this, therefore the greater and hotter that you are the greater dollars you can expect to generate. All of my women perform a minimum of two shifts per week and also a max of four. In case you get the position you will go right here tomorrow and also on Sunday to practice with one of my own best performers. When you complete the exam at the end you will be measured for your uniform and the position is yours. I am going to send you home which has a trial g-string to make sure that you’ll be able to shave your pussy the right way, or perhaps just shave it entirely, that is just what the majority of the women do due to the fact I will not consider any sort of tiny hairs exposing. You could also think about waxing. The g-strings remain on continually whenever you are on these property and when anybody attempts to really touch any spot of you that is protected with that material they are dumped outside, as for you, in the event you do not claim it prior to one of several security guards capture it. I do not consider any whoring throughout operating hrs, and that also includes doing dates with clients. In case anybody desires to bang you and also you would like to charge for that opportunity you speak with Suzy. It really don’t matter to me whatever you do with your free time. I do not know anything at all in relation to her business and also I do not want it to be affiliated to me at all, but as I mentioned, anything you do within your personal time is your personal business.”